Tomorrow is my Fathers 67th birthday, I’m writing today because I may not get a chance tomorrow and it’s important for me to take a moment to celebrate my Dad. About 8 years ago my Dad had a heart attack, he was clinically dead for 20 minutes and boy, was he pissed off that he had been brought back. Dad claims he saw nothing on the other side, but my Aunt and I wonder if the reason he was so mad about it is that he did. It was pretty scary and to see the parent, who was always seemingly more healthy, get struck by something potentially fatal, was hard. I was in a weird mental space when it happened but managed to get my shit together (with the help of whanau) and get back to my home country. I was home for 9months, I had to help convince him to pack up and sell our family home and he had to convince me not to stay. Growing up, our relationship was pretty solid, we had a couple bad patches but thats pretty normal. My parents didn’t seperate till ...